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How to Be Incredibly Likeable at Work

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A lot of people believe that likeability is something that you’re either born with or you’re not. They believe that it’s based on how attractive, intelligent, and outgoing you are – all qualities that are determined largely by genetics and can be difficult to alter.

But actually, research indicates that this isn’t the case. Likeability isn’t something that you’re born with. It’s something that you can learn, develop, and enhance. It’s true that attractive, intelligent, outgoing people are appealing. But research has shown that people find qualities like honesty, sincerity, and empathy to be even more likeable. These are qualities that you can adopt – although it may require a shift in your mindset and a little effort.

But hey – it’s worth the effort! Being likeable at work is a wonderful thing. Likeable people have an easier time collaborating with others. They’re more effective and productive. And they make the office a friendlier and more harmonious place to be.

So what do you need to do to become more likeable at work? Well, author Travis Bradberry suggests that you adopt the following behaviors:

  1. Ask questions – When you ask people questions, it shows them that you’re really listening and interested in what they’re saying. Just make sure that you ask clarifying questions (“How did you feel when that happened?”) and not challenging questions (“Are you crazy?”).
  2. Put away your phone – When you’re having a conversation with someone, you should really focus on that person. Even a quick glance at your phone suggests that you’re not really interested in what the person is saying.
  3. Be honest – Don’t try to impress people by putting on an act or trying to be something that you’re not. Instead, be honest and genuine. It’s a really appealing quality!
  4. Keep an open mind – Try not to let your own attitudes, feelings, and beliefs distract you from what other people are saying. If you can keep an open mind, people will feel more comfortable talking to you and sharing their ideas.
  5. Don’t seek attention – It’s great to get noticed and receive praise, but if you’re desperate to get it, this can sometimes be a little off-putting.
  6. Be consistent – Even if you’re having a lousy day, don’t take it out on your coworkers. No matter what, try to be kind and polite.
  7. Use the right body language – We communicate a lot through our expressions, posture, and gestures. So make eye contact, lean forward when someone is talking, don’t cross your arms, and speak with an enthusiastic tone. It will work wonders!
  8. Use people’s names – Research has shown that people really like it when others refer to them by name during a conversation. So use peoples’ names when you greet them, and continue to use their names occasionally as you talk. This simple habit will increase your appeal!
  9. Know when to open up – It’s great to be honest with other people about what you’re thinking and what’s going on in your life. But wait until you have a solid relationship before you start sharing personal information.
  10. Smile – If you smile when you’re talking to other people, they will most likely mirror your behavior and smile back. This will make them feel happy – and more positive about you!

So there you have it. Do these things, and you’ll be well on your way to being incredibly, irresistibly likeable!

 

Bradberry, T. (2015, January 27). 13 habits of exceptionally likeable people. Forbes. Retrieved from: http://www.forbes.com/sites/travisbradberry/2015/01/27/13-habits-of-exceptionally-likeable-people/

 

How to Charm Your Coworkers

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Do you want your coworkers to view you in a favorable light? Would you like to be seen as charming, agreeable, and engaging? Well according to author Jeff Haden, it’s not hard to achieve this goal. You simply need to follow these steps:

  • Pay attention – When your coworkers talk to you, pay attention to what they’re saying. Make eye contact, nod, and smile (when appropriate). Show them that you find them interesting and respect what they have to say.
  • Ask questions – Ask your coworkers questions about the things that they’re interested in. Get them to open up and talk about themselves. It will show them that you’re really listening and invested in what they’re saying.
  • Don’t try to “win” – If a coworker is talking about a personal accomplishment, don’t try to “one-up” that person. Don’t start talking about the great things that you’re doing. Just be complimentary. Tell your coworker that you’re impressed. Be genuine.
  • Be vulnerable – Don’t be afraid to admit to your mistakes, and even laugh about them. It’s OK to talk about your weaknesses or shortcomings. No one is perfect, and your coworkers will appreciate your openness and honesty. They’ll also feel more comfortable being honest with you in return.
  • Don’t play “devil’s advocate” – It’s OK to disagree with what a coworker says. But try not to disagree with everything, all the time. Not everyone enjoys a good debate. Instead, figure out the things that you have in common with your coworkers. What interests do you share? What topics do you agree about? Try to focus on those areas.
  • Use people’s names – Research has shown that people really like it when others refer to them by name during a conversation. So use your coworkers’ names when you greet them, and continue to use their names occasionally as you talk.
  • Listen – Spend most of your time listening, rather than talking. Your attention will be appreciated, and you’ll also learn a lot of interesting things about the people you work with.

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Haden, J. (2014, April 1). 10 genuine ways anyone can be exceptionally charming. Inc. Retrieved from: https://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/10-genuine-ways-anyone-can-be-exceptionally-charming.html

The One Thing You Should Do to Make Your Coworkers Like You

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It’s so important to be on good terms with your coworkers. When people have good relationships at work, they’re happier and more productive. They’re more likely to collaborate, share ideas, be creative, and enjoy the work that they do.

So what should you do to make your coworkers like you? According to research, the answer is simple – you should ask them questions.

When you ask people questions and really listen to their answers, you form a bond. You create a feeling of trust and connection. And that’s an important foundation for any relationship.

But the way that you ask questions is important! Getting too personal too quickly is a big misstep. So is asking questions in an angry tone or not really listening to the person’s answer. If you want your coworkers to like you, you need to ask questions the right way. Try following these four steps:

  1. Start with simple questions – Don’t begin by asking your coworker a really personal, tough, or challenging question. You may be seen as abrasive or intrusive. Start out with simple questions and build from there.
  2. Use a friendly tone of voice – Don’t be too formal or curt when asking questions. People respond better to questions asked in a friendly, casual manner. If you use a warm tone of voice, your coworkers will most likely be warm and friendly in return.
  3. Ask open-ended questions – There’s nothing wrong with asking people questions that they can answer with a simple “yes” or “no.” But when you ask open-ended questions that require a more detailed response, you’ll be more likely to learn valuable new information and form a connection.
  4. Ask follow-up questions – Follow-up questions are essential! When you ask follow-up questions, you’re demonstrating to your coworkers that you’ve been paying attention and you care about what they have to say. Your coworkers will most likely appreciate your interest and respond by being even more friendly, open, and honest.

 

Koulopoulos, T. (2018, July 22). Harvard study reveals one word is the secret to being likeable and emotionally intelligent. Inc. Retrieved from: https://www.inc.com/thomas-koulopoulos/harvard-study-reveals-that-one-word-is-secret-to-being-likable-emotionally-intelligent.html

 

Two Words That Will Make You More Likeable

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Do you want people to like you more?  According to researchers at the University of South Wales, it’s easily done. Just say “thank you.”

Researchers found that when you say “thank you” or send thank you notes, other people are more likely to view you as warm, friendly, and thoughtful. They’re also more likely to want to maintain a relationship with you.

And that’s it. Say “thank you” on a regular basis and people will like you more. Simple!

Thank you for your attention!

 

Koren, T. (2016, July 28). Saying these two words more often will make people like you more. Elite Daily. Retrieved from http://elitedaily.com/wellness/saying-words-people-like-you-more/1567118/?utm_source=greatist&utm_medium=tr&utm_campaign=p10k80

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